Oct 13, 2022
Boundaries can be a challenge in business and life…and according to Terri Cole, author of Boundary Boss, they don’t have to be. Boundaries can be enforced with ease, kindness, grace, or a little heat and spice when needed.
What is a boundary?
Knowing your preferences, limits, deal breakers, and non-negotiables, and being able to clearly and transparently communicate them when you so choose.
Folks, it does no good to have an uncommunicated boundary.
Why don’t we communicate and enforce our boundaries?
- We’re praised and raised to be self-sacrificing.
- We’re not taught to identify them or communicate them.
- We’re perceived (particularly as women) as b*****, aggressive, demanding, or selfish when we do.
Establishing and communicating boundaries are learned skills.
So, “where do I need boundaries?” Answer this question:
Who am I holding resentment against and for what?
Write it all down.
Remember, it’s never too late to revisit a boundary violation. You can start the conversation with: “Hey, I’d like to make a simple request” or “I’d like to make a simple request.” Terri’s book has a whole chapter of scripts.
In our businesses, use contracts with clients. Be specific about expectations and deliverables. You don’t have to say “yes” to things not in the contract without payment. You don’t have to return email all hours of the day if you set the expectation as to when you will answer.
With our employees, set expectations for their performance and your own behaviors.
In your business, boundaries are about valuing who you are, what you have to offer, and you leading.
Terri shared much more in the podcast.
Give it a listen.
Resources:
Boundary Boss is available at https://boundarybossbook.com/
Terri’s gift to my listeners is at https://boundaryboss.me/readytopropel